Can the way you praise your child influence how resilient they are when faced with challenges?

The Mindset Scholars Network


Research on praise shows that how adults interact with children every day is important, and can affect students’ motivation in profound ways.

“You’re so smart at that!” “You’re so talented!” Common sense suggests that telling students they are the best will make them feel confident and motivated, and it feels good to tell children things that will make them feel good.  But this type of praise can backfire.  Praise is an opportunity to show a child why you think she succeeded and getting praised for ability tells children that what’s valued is a fixed trait or talent. You either have it or you don’t. It highlights the fact that children are being judged or evaluated. This can make children feel helpless if they feel like they’re being judged on the basis of something they have “no control over." So it’s important to show children that what adults really value is something children can control: their effort, their problem-solving strategies, and seeking help when they really need it. 

To find out more, read Praise That Makes Learners More Resilient by the Mindset Scholars Network.